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New Book by Wendell Holmes  |  You Love You LLC

What If Everything You've Tried
Wasn't Touching the Real Wound?

Discover. Discard. Deal. is a raw, honest memoir-workbook for survivors who are done white-knuckling their healing — and ready to go all the way through it.

"I spent 50 years, 17 treatment centers, and over $300,000 searching for freedom.
This book is what I finally found."  — Wendell Holmes

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Does This Sound Familiar?

  • You've been in recovery — but you still feel like something is missing
  • You've done the therapy, the steps, the programs... and the patterns keep coming back
  • Relationships end the same way. Jobs collapse. The walls go up automatically.
  • You're functioning — but you know deep down you're not truly free
  • You've never told anyone the whole truth about what happened to you
  • Part of you wonders if healing is actually possible for someone like you

You are not broken. You are buried.
And there is a way out.

DISCOVER.
DISCARD.
DEAL.
Breaking Free from Childhood Trauma
and Finding Real Love for the First Time
— Wendell Holmes —

Part Memoir. Part Workbook.
Entirely Real.

This is not another self-help book with nice ideas.

This is the story of one man who lost two marriages, a business, and decades of his life to childhood trauma he never understood — and the three-part framework he used to finally heal it.

Written from 50 years of living it, 650+ consecutive days of shadow-work journaling, and a nervous-system transformation most people said was impossible after 60.

The 3-Part Framework Inside This Book

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DISCOVER — Uncover the childhood wound driving every adult pattern
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DISCARD — Release the shame, identity lies, and survival strategies that cage you
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DEAL — Grieve what was stolen, reclaim who you are, and build a life rooted in love

This Framework Has Been Lived, Tested, and Proven

218%
Nervous-system regulation improvement in one year
(Score: 11 → 35 out of 40)
650+
Consecutive days of shadow-work journaling — without missing a single day
17
Treatment centers attended before finding what was really missing
Age 61
When Wendell experienced his first truly secure, loving relationship
"I didn't need another program.
I needed someone to ask:
What actually happened to you?" — Wendell Holmes, Discover. Discard. Deal.

This Book Was Written For You If…

  • You experienced childhood trauma — emotional, physical, or sexual
  • You've struggled with addiction, relapse, or "white-knuckle sobriety"
  • You've been in and out of therapy without lasting breakthrough
  • Your relationships follow the same painful patterns
  • You're a male survivor who has never seen yourself in a book like this
  • You're a parent who wants to break generational trauma now
  • You're a therapist, sponsor, or counselor working with trauma survivors
  • You've done the steps but feel something deeper is unfinished
  • You're 40, 50, 60+ and wondering if real healing is still possible
  • You're just done running — and ready to go all the way through it

Over 180 million adults in the U.S. carry the weight of childhood trauma.
This book is the roadmap so many of them are looking for — and never found.

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Wendell Holmes

Trauma-Recovery Coach  |  Author  |  Survivor

He Didn't Write This Book from a Theory.
He Wrote It from 50 Years of Living It.

Wendell Holmes is a trauma-recovery coach, 12-step sponsor, and founder of You Love You LLC — a community built for survivors who are ready to do the real work.

He is a childhood sexual abuse survivor who spent 50 years in the cycle before breaking it. He lost two marriages, a business, and over $300,000 before he understood what was truly driving his pain.

Today, Wendell rises at 4:30 am every morning — not from discipline, but from desire. He sponsors others in recovery, leads daily healing practices, and has formed his first truly secure, loving relationship at age 61.

He wrote this book because no one handed it to him when he needed it most.

"Sobriety without healing is just white-knuckling. I know because I did it for decades. This book is what changed everything."

What You Get as a Beta Reader

This is your invitation to be part of something that matters.

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Free Access — Chapters 1, 2 & 3
Revised and ready. The foundation of the entire healing framework.
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Simple, Guided Feedback Form
Takes about 20–30 minutes. No writing experience needed.
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Your Name in the Acknowledgments
As a founding reader who helped shape this book — if you choose.
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First Access to the Full Manuscript
When the complete book is ready, you'll be the first to receive it.
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A Direct Line to the Author
Your feedback will actually change this book. Wendell reads every response.
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Complete Confidentiality
Your responses are private. Your participation is on your terms.
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What Early Readers Are Saying

I've read a lot of trauma books. This one is different. Wendell doesn't talk at you — he walks with you. I felt seen for the first time in years.

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Recovery Community Member

As a therapist who works with male survivors, I've been waiting for a book like this. The framework is practical, the honesty is rare, and the courage it took to write this is obvious on every page.

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Licensed Therapist

Chapter 1 alone changed how I see my entire life. I'm not broken. I've just been carrying something that was never mine to carry.

— [Beta Reader Name]
Trauma Survivor

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Change 180 Million Lives?

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